I could write a novel about all the ways April has helped me, but since I know my audience is made up of fellow ADHDers who would 100% lose interest after the first chapter, I’ll try my best to keep this short and sweet to match our attention spans.
I was one of those rare cases (or so I’ve been told) that didn’t receive a proper diagnosis until I was 24. What you may find in common with me however, is that you too had to take the long way towards beginning to look inside yourself, and realize that it was the start of an even longer road to be able to love, forgive and accept who you are in order to reach your potential.
I had been my own worst enemy for such a long time, that when I had initially began taking corrective medication and actually saw myself start to succeed, I found that no matter what, I was still never good enough for my biggest critic: me. I saw my old, self-sabotaging habits and behaviours resurface as I continued to set unrealistic expectations that were made up of half-ass planned hopes and dreams, that long-overshot the work in the middle that was required to get me there.
I was almost finished university and was “doing” better than I ever could have imagined, but mentally, I never felt worse. I wholeheartedly believed I didn’t belong in a world that wasn’t built for people like us. I was paralyzed by the pain I carried around for feeling too much, the guilt from all the mistakes I made in the past, and the enthusiasm I had for little, regular things that didn’t line up with anyone I knew, especially in the professional setting. That’s when I finally got the courage to make my wellness a priority and consequently, that’s where April came in and no exaggeration, she quite literally saved me, in every possible way, shape and form.
Previously, I had looked for more subtle ways to try to heal the relationship with myself from counsellors, to psychics, to meditation and journaling, but what I needed was someone specialized enough to know how to speak to my brain but still tactful enough to know when to call me on my shit. People with ADHD are smart. Most of the time we aren’t looking for a sugar-coated proverb to get us through the day because we already know we're going to make it there. People like us crave stimuli and want ACTION.
April was and always will be that action for me. She gave me the power to begin to learn how to check myself BEFORE I wrecked myself. She showed me that my executive function just needed to be trained rather than changed, and eventually it made all the difference with not just me, but with all the things simutaneously occuring outside of me from work to my personal relationships.
It’s been 6 months since I had my first session with April and in that time I’ve been able to get a great job and pay off about $8000 in debt I thought would follow me forever. I have learned to pause and plan more in a way that lets me step back and begin to stop impeding the people I love as a way to distract me from dealing with myself.
Most importantly, I no longer see myself as someone I am ashamed of and in many ways I become my own hero more and more every single day. Even on the days the crash of interia hits harder than usual.
Short story long, April helped me do that, and If you can relate to any of this, I know she can do that for you too, as long as you’re prepared to put in the work.
Through my long and arduous journey of navigating frustrating mental health systems and trying to figure out what's been up with me and seeing my share of professionals, suspecting for quite a few years that I had ADHD, finding April has been the ground I've needed. She helped me through many processes, validated me and my struggles, and guided me to solutions that work best for me.
Thanks to April, I finally got a proper diagnosis, and she has helped me find ways to strategize and find coping mechanisms around the blocks I've been having for so long. I feel like I finally have some traction in my productivity which, in turn, has been boosting my self-confidence, self-esteem, all my selves! I truly believe in coaching as an effective tool to deal with ADHD struggles as it deals with the many facets of life, not just one area, including relationships, building structure and routine, or whatever is really boggling the brain. April is easy to talk to, she hears and listens to me and sees me and helps me see myself. I highly recommend!
As a woman with ADHD, reaching out to April for coaching has significantly increased my overall quality of life. Each week I feel as though I collect worries or anxieties and when I discuss them at our bi-weekly meetings, my brain explodes like winning a game of Candy Crush. In just an hour, we work through so much on my mind, I feel as though I walk away a better version of myself. I am learning to think differently and not only embrace my ADHD but also who I am meant to be as a human being. I cannot express enough the gratitude I have for finding April and having the opportunity to work with her regularly. It would be an understatement to say she has simply changed my life.
April is just truly amazing. As I was going through a difficult stage of my life, April appeared in it to help me through the transitions that I was suffering through. Each week, for a little over a year, she listened and gave me unparalleled support. With her, I had deep discussions that allowed me to see life differently, without judgment and without pressure.
Suffering from generalized anxiety, I could have days with more than 3-4 attacks per day. Always calm, always listening, she supported me by giving me strategies to learn to calm down, to accept without judgment who I was and what I was going through, to stop living for others and to give myself permission to be who I really am. She really gave me the necessary support to get through this journey.
I still work with April. Thanks to her, I have made tremendous progress in my mental health in the past year. I still have work to do, but I know I am very well supported on this journey. I am looking forward to working with her on other dimensions of my life that could help me be happier. I know she is the one that can help me with this and other goals. April, thanks for being in my life.
Thanks for everything.
April est tout simplement extraordinaire.
Comme je traversais une étape difficile de ma vie, April est apparue dans celle-ci pour m’accompagner dans ces années de transitions que je traversais avec beaucoup de souffrances.
Chaque semaine, durant un peu plus d’un an, elle a été d’une écoute et d’un support sans égal. Avec elle, j’ai eu des discussions profondes qui m’ont permis de voir la vie autrement, sans jugement et sans pression.
Souffrant d’anxiété généralisée, je pouvais avoir des journées avec plus de 3-4 crises par jour. Toujours calme, toujours à l’écoute, elle m’a accompagnée dans ces journées en me donnant des stratégies pour apprendre à me calmer, accepter sans jugement qui je suis et ce que je traversais, d’arrêter de vivre pour les autres et de me donner la permission d’être qui je suis réellement.
Je continue toujours à travailler avec April. Grâce à elle, j’ai fait des progrès énormes au niveau de ma santé mentale dans la dernière année. Il reste du travail à faire, mais je sais que je suis bien accompagnée. Je suis très excitée d’éventuellement continuer à travailler avec elle d’autres dimensions de ma vie qui pourraient me rendre encore plus heureuse. Je sais que c’est la personne qui peut m’accompagner dans ça.
April, merci de faire partie de ma vie.
Merci pour tout.
Working with April is a profound experience. April is a remarkable woman, brimming with humble talent, intelligence, humour and knowing. She brings decades of relevant work with her students and adults across a breadth of experiences which make her contributions consistently more insightful to my personal situation than any other provider on my journey.
April puts things in perspective and provides guidance so I can form my own definitive plan. She sees clearly, asks questions and Illuminates connections that I see but don’t recognize.
April knows my family (and key staff) which gives context to my coaching sessions; she doesn’t have to make assumptions about my family members as she develops her own perspective and knowledge from first-hand sessions with a variety of my support network.
With my situation, I feel like April saw “it” 3-6 months into our coaching relationship, yet she waited patiently - with infinite positive regard - as I came to realize 1.5 years into this process, what I believe she saw early on.
I’m effectively gathering emotional puzzle pieces and decoding behavioural bread crumbs. From various sources in my life, I am connecting dots observed of me by professionals previously, but April is the pen that inks the line. April has helped me see the shape of myself.